LOVE & LUST

Love is something that cannot be brought. It is priceless, it is gifted by God. If you have strong faith, we will never be lack of love. If you have strong faith, God will grant you with all kind of love. You will be loved by the God, you will be raised up in a family with full of love. But, once you take these as granted, all will be taken away without hesitation. For the ones who do not cherish their gifted love, for those who betray himself or herself and for those who against the laws of nature, God has prepared the way or the journey of their lives for them to earn tiny bit of love by going through retribution and trial. Everyone is treated fairly. God has a plan for everyone, it differs for different people.

In another hand, for those who have been being so well, for those who have so firm and deep faith and for those who have followed the guidance, they deserve something more and beyond, love and lust. Love and lust are for the ones who are ready to build up a family. God allows an intimate relationship between a pair of different gender couple to build up the foundation of family in the vast of love and lust.

In this modern century, love and lust have become so common between boys and girls. As a result, the situation becomes very terrible and complicated when young teenagers cannot distinguish love and lust. Pure lust is based solely on physical attraction and fantasy. It often dissipates when the "real person" surfaces. It is the stage of wearing rose coloured glasses when he or she "can do no wrong". Being in love doesn't exclude lust. In fact, lust can lead to love. However Love, on the other hand, isn't an immediate feeling. It grows over time. Real love, not based on idealization or projection, requires time to get to know each other. Love is more akin to a friendship than to a coupling. To paraphrase the psychiatrist M Scott Peck, love is the desire to extend yourself at whatever personal cost for the purpose of nurturing the growth and furthering the dreams of another individual. Love is effortful, it involves personal sacrifice, and it grows slowly. Love is not about "me" or what I can have. It's about "you" and what can I do to make your life richer.

But people may imagine that lustful feelings can by themselves hold a relationship together for ever. And this brings us to the second reason why so many people are easily addicted to lust in today's society. They find it difficult to differentiate between what we have and what we imagine we could have. That's not surprising. We're constantly bombarded with images of perfect bodies, and stories of idyllic relationships which, as soon as they're no longer idyllic, can easily be traded in for another idyllic relationship. These images and stories, together with the advertising mantra that "you deserve better", has led many to believe that “better” is outside of us, somewhere, if only we can find it. Here are some signs to watch for to differentiate pure lust from love.

SIGNS OF LUST

• You're totally focused on a person's looks and body.
• You're interested in having sex, but not in having conversations.
• You'd rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.
• You want to leave soon after sex rather than cuddling or breakfast the next morning.
• You are lovers, but not friends.

SIGNS OF LOVE

• You want to spend quality time together other than sex.
• You get lost in conversations and forget about the hours passing.
• You want to honestly listen to each other's feelings, make each other happy.
• He or she motivates you to be a better person.
• You want to get to meet his or her family and friends.

If one has approached the stage of love and lust without consent of God, faith no longer stays strong and it starts to fade away. When that point of time, the lust has controlled his or her mind and faith no longer exists in his or her heart. As retribution, he or she will bear the consequences and responsibilities. As told by the God, we can dance to celebrate, we can love to live. So, love while you are young. Have a great life and cherish the one who loves you and love truly the one whom you love.  Have a deep believe in God and temptations and evils will never corrode you.

Mak Chee Mun
            18499
            Chemical Engineering

Internet

In this era of globalization, Internet has brought new dimensions to the people as a whole. It transforms the field of personal relationships, brings a positive change to the advertising industries and helps the entertainment media to evolve.

                One major impact that the Internet has had on society is in transforming the field of personal relationships. The Web has taken the old models of personal adverts and dating agencies and catapulted them into new dimensions. The latest online dating sites allow people to chat in real time, text through e-mail, exchange photographs, ‘meet’ at distance and even 'talk' to each other with voicemails. Distance is no longer an encumbrance. Social websites are another extremely popular way for meeting people from all round the world. People can discuss whatever they wish and join or leave whenever they choose.

                The Internet has brought a positive change to the advertising industries too. Over the Internet, advertisements can reach the masses within seconds. Internet advertisements have changed the equations of the advertising industry. Branding on the Internet is much more effective that other forms of product promotion.

                 The entertainment media has evolved due to advancements in Internet. Movies, songs, games are a few clicks away. People have begun using the Internet to watch and download movies, listen to music, play games to entertain themselves.

                In a nutshell, Internet has brought new dimensions to the people as a whole. People should use it wisely as it will definitely bring positive impacts to the society.

Key of Success

Key of Success

               

            It is an undeniable fact that people can achieve success in many ways. One can be successful by using their talent in what they have. Hence, it is true to say that success is not measured through performance in academic. Success can be achieved in terms of creativity, entrepreneurship and so on. For instance, some successful people such as Bill Gates achieve their goal without education. No doubt, their determination, passion and confidence help them to be successful in life.

            It is paramount to be determined if one wants to be successful in life. In fact, a person with determination will not give up easily as the word ‘No’ will never exist in their mindset. A person who is well educated does not mean that he or she will never quit and keep on trying though fail for thousand times. However, a determined person will keep on moving forward though he is teased by the people around him. Hence, academic does not ensure a bright future of a person, but his attitude does.

            Besides, it is an indisputable fact that passion is another key of success. Successful people will always enjoy and passionate about what they are doing. Though they are not well educated but they do not do things by halves. As a saying goes, ‘Follow your passion, and success will follow you‘. It is obviously means that a successful person is the one with full of passion but not necessary must be well educated.

              Furthermore, a person with confidence will achieve success too. ‘Confidence is the companion of success’, said by Anonymous.  Those successful people believe in their capability in doing things and they never have negative thoughts in mind. In fact, people with full of confidence, their peers and followers will respect and follow their instructions and this will make everything goes smoothly.

            In a nutshell, a person with determination, passion and confidence will become successful though he or she is not well educated. In this 21^st century, people do measure success through performance in academic. They believe that it is the only way to show how hardworking and intelligent is the person. In fact, those people who are not good in academic should not give up easily. Everybody has their own talent and it is believed that one can be successful by using their talent in what they have.

Trip.

I find Bangkok a pretty interesting to post about. I was awarded an opportunity to pay a visit to Bangkok few weeks ago and I was so amused. Their historical destinations, culture, food, and even people are contributing factors to make this city so developed.

I'll first talk about the floating market which I happen to visit the first day of the trip. The floating market consist of variety of food and other goods. What makes it different is that as what we can derive from the name, floating, the market is on a river. We were, as if walking on a bridge and there were boats parking beside the bridge selling cultural snacks and food. Those snacks were indulging, totally satisfied that strong food crave of mine.

Second, no doubt, their infamous 'agua' show. Agua, literally means bisexuality. According to our tour guide, being an 'agua' in Bangkok actually gets a better pay than ordinary job, which I find it rather surprising till the tour guide brought us to a performance in one of the nights. It is clearly shown that there are few performances per day and basically, full seated unless you have booked your tickets. You are also allowed to take pictures with the agua's after the show, but you have to pay for your snap. There were no difference those agua's with women, but when they speak, *chocked*.

Lastly, the thai's culture. According to wikipedia, the culture of thailand incorporates cultural beliefs and characteristics indigenous to the area known as modern day Thailand coupled with much influence from ancient India, China, Cambodia, along with the neighboring pre-historic cultures of southeast asia. The day we stepped on Thailand we were surprised they can actually speak Chinese and Malay. The thai's are friendly, they actually greets us whenever we step into their stalls and greets again when we leave. Lovely aren't they?

I really love it, traveling,  it actually broadens our mind. We used to think vicarious knowledge is important, but realize experiential knowledge seemed more vital. 

“One’s destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things.” – Henry Miller


Siew Hzien Hung
18015
Chemical Engineering  Foundation

Last Thursday

 It was a Thursday I can recall, still so fresh in mind.

When I thought everything will be as usual, I was wrong. The semester 1 results has came out the night before, as I was too reluctant to check it right after it has been released, I checked my results in the morning instead. The shocking news ever when I came back from a morning bath before heading to lecture. My roommate helped me to check my results, every second my heart, my hands, my whole body was trembling while my result's pdf file is downloading. I can't even open the file myself, I was too nervous that I have to seek help from my roommate to help me open it. The moment that has totally ruined my whole week's mood. Yes, my results wasn't as expected at all. Though I passed all of em, none of em were as good as I expect them to be. FAILURE.

Well, my mood wasn't that bad before I headed to the first lecture. During the first lecture, everyone was curious about other people's score. That was the time when I think I am a total fail, useless student. My friends got their expected results, those were flying results. Depressed, really depressed the moment I knew all my other friends got such great result. Such depression literally filled me and increased by the minute till I finally broke down on the second lecture. Every time I think of how much effort I paid, how supportive my parents were, sending me here and there trying their very best to support me, and yet, thats the result I gained. That moment I finally can't stand any more pressure, I cried. It was in the lecture, I tried, so hard to compress all my feelings but I can't withstand that depression anymore. Its like, piles of bad feelings pushing towards you, you can't even breathe, and tears fall unintentionally while you are gasping for relieve. It lasts for about half an hour, my head were full of very bad thoughts. Here comes a message from a friend, saying let bygones be bygones, try harder the next sem. She saw me supposedly.  I guess most of the people feel the same, it's easy to say, no worries try harder next sem. But after you fell a thousand feet, is it that easy to stand up and walk futher again? No. It takes time. Time heals.

The moment I stepped out the lecture hall, mok came towards me, trying to motivate me in a 'guys' way. You know, guys kind of conversation, never those kind of polite, gentle kind of conversation. I replied, ' I'm okay'. But am I really okay? I don't know. It's just like you doesn't belong to be here but you try, so hard just to fit into the circle. That feeling sucks, seriously.

Confident I've accumulated for 3 months just ruined in a morning, just like that.


Siew Hzien Hung
18015
Chemical Engineering

Another poem to share

"There is something within me

Trying to break free
I'm trying to suppress it
But it may soon exit
From the walls of my heart

What is this feeling?
It is so confusing
Shall I follow it?
Should I not?

I have to admit
It’s such a fraught"

The travellers' stories

So,this happened during my recent trip to Vietnam,where I managed to bump into some really inspiring individuals.There were three of them.Here it goes...

The first traveller
A she.She was travelling alone.This Vietnam trip was considered an escape for her from those tremendous workloads in Manilla. She enjoys travelling alone and guess what she is an amazing person.She is the eldest child in her family,and she is the one who supports her brothers' education all these while.My respect really goes out to you woman,she must  have loved her brothers very much to sacrifice this much.

The second traveller
Bromance. Just kidding. They are freelancers who are currently spending their time to travel around the world. They had ditched their jobs in China,right after they came to realise the real meaning of life and they wish to cherish their youth by being wild and free at their ages.Working in China is really stressful according to them and they had decided to do so.This seriously placed me in 'awe'.What do you think?:D

The third traveller
He is not actually a traveller but since he was one of the persons I had met during the trip,I shall regard him as a traveller. He was my tour guide for a cruise trip in Halong Bay.He is a fresh graduate in Vietnam and just got his first job recently.We chatted quite a lot with him as he is really friendly and very outspoken.He told us that there are issues of education quality in Vietnam.Vietnam’s education has been “staying alone” and it does not have the international connection,thus fresh graduates like him get very low starting salaries.Most of the citizens of Vietnam are not subjected to education due to their background.So the people there really cherish the hard-earned opportunity for education.They just strive for a simple and well fed life,no others.This really touched my heart.It indirectly reminded me to value the slightest chance to improve myself,knowing that they do not even have the chance to do so.

A beautiful city lurked in modesty

Choo Ee Huey

18510

Chemical Engineering